WOW! We are already here! The last week of summer break, and what a summer it has been. When the weather broke in the spring, it felt like being let free. For me it felt so, more than other years previous.
As I have been telling many friends, “So much has happened!”
But to be honest, it wasn’t a smooth sailing summer at the start. At least not without a little bit of inner drama. Prior to summer’s arrival, I happened to go through tougher times than in the past.
This is how it started…
It was one of the gloomiest days ever, so I felt, one spring morning of this year. I found myself once again up early, unable to sleep at 4am looking out the front window at another grey and rainy day. I had been noticing that more than usual the weather in early spring had really started getting to me. All I was feeling was numb and unable to uplift my spirits. I have found myself in another creative ‘RUT’…
I struggled to exercise regularly. My diet was completely random. It was painful trying to keep my days productive, and I just couldn’t get the fogginess from my head. My work/life balance was not in flow.
We all can get into ruts from time to time. This one was heavier and darker than usual. But the rut wasn’t the issue, now that I look back at it. It was how I was dealing with it. I totally bought into my own bullshit story!
Yes, we all deal with some stress. Yes, don’t always have it our way. Yes, we all go through some personal changes and can get affected by the weather. But on this day, I really allowed myself to get sucked right in. This process, I now realize started further back than I was aware of at the time. It began months earlier when I let a situation ‘put out my fire’. At the time I had forgotten that the THOUGHTS I had everyday were guiding me to manifesting what was happening in my life. And at the time, I was harnessing some real shitty thoughts.
The details of what I was struggling with are not all that relevant. Feel free to take out a sheet of paper and right down as many things as possible that may cause stress in your own life. We all have our ‘list”. But it’s not the list, as much as it is how we decide to turn this list around to experience what we really want.
That morning in the early spring I was about to go through a system UPGRADE…
At the time I was writing in my journal multiple times a day. This went on until one day I just got sick of writing and reading the same crap over and over again. So, I stopped. I thought to try something new.
On that day in the end of May, I opened a journal entry and dated it, “July 31, 2019” …
I took a breath and I began writing, in first person, how I WANTED to feel on that day, and started show my gratitude for the turnaround that had happened. I was thanking everyone who was there for me and expressing how happy I was to have so many great people around me.
I read the entry 3 times and shut my journal and let it be…
Shortly after that, my actions started to change after reaching out to others. I asked for help and my call was answered. The process started and I was back in action again. Three weeks from writing the journal entry, things were starting to show the beginnings of a turnaround. I was starting to find my way out of this hole I had dug myself into.
The outcome resulted in my health and energy coming back, so I could train harder again. When I trained regularly I became mentally clear and more creative. When I gained more momentum, I got inspired to share and help others at bigger levels. I started to no longer get triggered by things emotionally and managed to feel more present and powerful in my body again. I started to have a few mini breakthroughs that have me now building something new!
I had once again started to BRING MY BEST to my daily situations and the people I interacted with. I am becoming someone NEW!
So, what did I do? How did this happen?
What happened to work for me, included these three things:
1.I asked for help… In some of my lowest moments, when I thought I was just bitching to a friend, sometimes I happened to be complaining to the very person that could provide me the help. These people in our lives, will hear us at a different level then the rest. These are people that, no matter what, will show up for you in a time of need. Be very aware of who in your life is likely to hear you at such a compassionate level. They may save you from a real shit storm!
2. I focused on 1 task… I started to simplify things by simply DECIDING to focus on that ONE THING that will cause the greatest impact and keep focusing on it until the first win reveals itself. If we keep being indecisive, we will keep creating confusing results. Decide, focus and execute!
3. I changed my behaviours… When the going gets tough, the tough GET UP EARLY! How many super successful people do we know that wake up in the morning and hit snooze 5 more times before getting out of bed? Most highly successful people are up early. Often, they are up earlier than everyone else in their town! When we get up early we get to set our day up the way we need it to be, so we can SHOW UP STRONG and BRING OUR BEST. I began doing this daily even if I may not have had clients to train that morning. It gave me a chance to change my habits into rituals that began to create measurable results. This simple move was a real GAME CHANGER for me!
The lessons I gained include:
LESSON #1 – Ask SOONER!
Why the hell do we wait so long to ask for help when we need it? Just ask!
LESSON #2 – Decide NOW, to create a new monologue.
It’s that simple! I caught myself repeating the same bullshit story until one day I decided to say something else and repeat it until I started to FEEL it!
LESSON #3 – Move our bodies!
If we don’t know the course of action YET, just BE IN ACTION. Get up early, go for a walk, breath, stretch, train, roll around on the floor etc. DO ANYTHING! Our bodies are vehicles for processing experiences, sensations, emotions and stress. Next time you are angry, go for a walk for at least 45 min. Assess if you are still as angry as you were before the walk. Biological processes happen in the body when we move, hold our head up and set our shoulders back. We start to feel different! This is one of the most underestimated tools we have, OUR BODIES!
I tend to believe that we are faced with challenges that seem out of our control because we need to be shown that we can do better. We are far more powerful then we sometimes give ourselves credit for and sometimes we need to be reminded. This is what I love about what I do, because I feel I can see an even greater potential in the people I work with. And those that I get help from, see the same powerful force in me that I may not be seeing at the time.
We are all connected. We are all in this together.
What does the next season bring for us as we take another shift, and enter new beginnings?
What are you working on? What do you need? How can you be supported?
Whatever you want to experience next, is up to you!
Let’s get at it and take the next step towards BRINGING OUR BEST, this fall season!
Peace and Love!